Mmm okay to help someone best there are a few steps to go through.

Firstly the best way to help someone is to understand the person exact feelings first. You can close your eyes and Go search through your past memories. Relive it. See if you have any situation similar to hers when you are affected by similar people or similar things. Find the closest situation you have experienced.

But if there is no similar experience. Picture yourself going through the exact same thing. People reacting to you that same particular way... Making you upset.. . What do you feel?. Put yourself in the exact same position of hers and understand her emotions going through her. 

Secondly. Using your own current perspective after understanding the situation. When you were facing the similar problem in the past or in your mind...What do you think you needed the most. What did you wish someone come to tell you or help you with at that point of time.? Sometimes people need strong words. What kind of words are most needed? Sometimes they need a hug.

So you judge the situation... How upset is she? 

For this case cause she's facing a problem. Naturally the best thing you can help her with is give her solutions. Help her think through. The next thing she need is either reassurance or cheering up... Depends on what you think she needs.

After seeing yourself in her shoes... What else can be done? 

So for her now her best move is to..... 

Er and I gave a few solutions 

Taaadaaa that's the solution.!!! 

Okay so after you have given the words you feel they need most. 

Like after giving solution see if there's other extra extra important things to say.

It differs from situation to situation. Sometimes what I do is explain the perspective from another party to lower conflicts. Or give multiple solutions to let them choose.

Thirdly always say something reassuring and to heal her wounds.

So 

if you feel that her confidence drop. Say something that boost it.

If you feel that she feels hurt. Say something to lessen her hurt.

If she feels disrespected. Remind her that perhaps at times is not that she's not respected but it's cause people favour their own interests like lazing at home or going out against their respect for her. Like they can still respect her but they put their own needs first. 

Lastly. End off by saying you will always be there for her no matter what! And believe in her. 

And you can say whatever lovey dovey after that. 

I always go by this format when I help people. Must remember ALL the steps

Mmm okay to help someone best there are a few steps to go through.

Firstly the best way to help someone is to understand the person exact feelings first. You can close your eyes and Go search through your past memories. Relive it. See if you have any situation similar to hers when you are affected by similar people or similar things. Find the closest situation you have experienced.

But if there is no similar experience. Picture yourself going through the exact same thing. People reacting to you that same particular way... Making you upset.. . What do you feel?. Put yourself in the exact same position of hers and understand her emotions going through her. 

Secondly. Using your own current perspective after understanding the situation. When you were facing the similar problem in the past or in your mind...What do you think you needed the most. What did you wish someone come to tell you or help you with at that point of time.? Sometimes people need strong words. What kind of words are most needed? Sometimes they need a hug.

So you judge the situation... How upset is she? 

For this case cause she's facing a problem. Naturally the best thing you can help her with is give her solutions. Help her think through. The next thing she need is either reassurance or cheering up... Depends on what you think she needs.

After seeing yourself in her shoes... What else can be done? 

So for her now her best move is to..... 

Er and I gave a few solutions 

Taaadaaa that's the solution.!!! 

Okay so after you have given the words you feel they need most. 

Like after giving solution see if there's other extra extra important things to say.

It differs from situation to situation. Sometimes what I do is explain the perspective from another party to lower conflicts. Or give multiple solutions to let them choose.

Thirdly always say something reassuring and to heal her wounds.

So 

if you feel that her confidence drop. Say something that boost it.

If you feel that she feels hurt. Say something to lessen her hurt.

If she feels disrespected. Remind her that perhaps at times is not that she's not respected but it's cause people favour their own interests like lazing at home or going out against their respect for her. Like they can still respect her but they put their own needs first. 

Lastly. End off by saying you will always be there for her no matter what! And believe in her. 

And you can say whatever lovey dovey after that. 

I always go by this format when I help people. Must remember ALL the steps